Comments on: Jordan – Stillbirth (after)

By: Robins

Robins — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 23:41:39 +0000

Hi, I am so sorry reading all of your stories, i know what you are going through, My daughter Grace was stillborn at 38 weeks weighing 7lb 10z (NOV 03) she was beautiful with lots of black hair. Grace was my second child,my son at the time was 4 yrs old so it was very hard having to explain to him what had happened. Grace would of been 6 nov just gone (2009) I still ache for her now my heart will never be complete again, I just dont understand why it happens. I have had 2 healthy pregnacies after Grace, my son is 5 now and my daughter is 4, but I still feel empty when I think of Grace. I am currently studying to become a qualified midwife and would love to help other people through this sad and tough time, I will use my experiance to comfort them.

By: donna

donna — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 17:42:45 +0000

I am sorry for your loss. I just lost my grandaughter, last week. Her name was also Jordan. Jordan was my son’s first baby. Mom and Dad are in so much pain and I do not know how to help them. As a mother I am suppossed to keep my children from pain, but i am now helpless.
God bless you and your family.

By: what now

what now — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 19:34:32 +0000

yesterday(november 21) i delivered my first child. stillborn. i was 41 wks. a week overdue. it was a girl. 8lbs 11oz 21in long 14 in head. i cant believe this has happened. if i had induced a wk ago at term she would be here alive and healthy. how am i supposed to go on? instead of leaving the hospital with my baby girl my husband and i left empty and alone. we had to leave and go straight to the mortuary to make cremation arrangements. i cant even describe how this has felt to family and friends. i cant wrap my brain around it myself. to hold your child so lifeless and white, is excruciating!! i just want to crawl into a hole and die. i miss her. i want her back. how have you found the strength to go on? i ache in every part of my body. my heart is broken. she was so beautiful. 10 fingers 10 toes. i just cant understand. my baby is gone!!!

By: gloria

gloria — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:43:08 +0000

I am a grandmother to a stillborn granddaughter. My daughter gave birth two years ago to her only child at 39 weeks after being told at her checkup that the heart had stopped. We were told after the autopsy that a blood clot had formed and gone to the lungs. I still cannot cope with it, for it still seems like a nightmare, watching my daughter go through labor, crying out loud not to give birth to a dead baby. She is not the same person any longer. She is not with the father of the baby, for they separated upon learning she was pregnant. She is also almost 40 years old and it took her years to get pregnant, so she is afraid that her time to be a mother and raise a child is passed. I too have worries that her chance is slim. She has not even met anyone to have a new relationship with. I get so sick in my heart so often even after two years, and I cannot be happy for them when I see other women pregnant. I feel cheated and angry, and I do not believe the anger will ever go away. I have no family to help with this pain for my husband commited suicide 9 years ago, so I am all my daughter has. She is afraid of growing old when I am gone with nobody. I cannot reassure her that it will not be the case either.

By: sad auntie

sad auntie — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 19:35:36 +0000

i am so sorry for your loss. i have not had a stillborn myself, but 6 weeks to the day after having my baby girl my sister in law delivered her stillborn daughter at 37 weeks. all the hopes and dreams of raising them together and the excitement of it were dashed. my daughter is now 9 months and hers has been gone almost 8. she still has a very hard time being around me. i completely understand but its still hard. im so heartbroken over it i cant imagine what she must be feeling!! i cant even look at her without feeling so much guilt!! it just seems so unfair. the strength you have shown amazes me. i remember shortly after she died that i couldnt even talk i just sobbed and my sister in law hugged me and said “itll be okay in time”. i couldnt believe her strength. i have a new found respect and love for her and her husband. she is now pregnant again and i hope and pray that everything goes well for them!!!!